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@ napkin_holder:

Could you explain how putting chips where one’s mouth is relates to a discussion regarding bragging and demeaning players?

Since the discussion had nothing to do with who was a better poker player, playing a game of poker with Younguru is clearly irrelevant.

If I play tennis against McEnroe, his winning doesn’t negate the fact he’s a rude and disrespectful player.

And who, may I ask, are you to demand that this ‘noise is shut down right now’— some omnipotent power?
Well, while your free to reside in such a delusion, others, like myself, don’t.
So my ‘noise’ will shut down when I decide, not when napkin_holder demands it.

And thanks for the invitation of a game but based on the tone of your post, there’s not much point in it for me win or lose.

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A player like McEnroe has plenty of accomplishments—at a pro level rather than a virtual court; however, when such accomplishments are achieved with rudeness and disrespect for fellow players, then unlike yourself, Excaliburn, my respect and those I consider legendary are reserved for a player like Federer.

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You will note that my first response to Younguru was in the form of a tactful question. Now, if you’re looking for tactless, look no further than your own post in which you refer to someone as ‘bitter’ and a ‘sniper’.

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Rudeness and disrespect?

Really?

Younguru and DARLINGGIRL are friends.

They remain friends.

You and I are friends.

As long as we understand where our friends are coming from, there usually are no issues!

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Tactful isn’t the descriptor I would have used, sarcastic and rhetorical seem more apt. I thought it also would have been obvious that I’m not trying or claiming to be tactful myself.

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"Excaliburn, Younguru commented on another player in a public thread. Without additional context, the only thing others can rely on is the words themselves—at face value.

Younguru’s first post clearly comes across as bragging. Phrases like ‘tilted hard for the rest of the session,’ ‘fell for a bluff,’ and ‘you owned them’—no matter how much they’re spun or reinterpreted—are, at face value, clearly disrespectful and demeaning.

If the intent was different due to a personal relationship between the two, then the poster has a responsibility to allude to this in the post to prevent misinterpretation. Otherwise, those unaware of the relationship have no reason to assume a different meaning.

Furthermore, being friends with someone doesn’t automatically exclude rude or disrespectful behavior—it happens all the time.

Excaliburn, the bottom line for me—the same lesson I try to teach my 7-year-old—is this:

Winning or losing doesn’t define you as a ‘winner.’
Rather, it’s how you win or lose.

gl, my friend.

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Let’s say you’re driving along and someone cuts you off.

You, being in total control of your emotions, continue on without a word or finger for the offender.

You’re having a great day, and you know you decided when you woke up to have

another great day.

You definitely know, this guy who cut you off, will not decide for you to have a lousy day.

In other words, you and you alone decide everyday what day you’ll have.

Some wake up noticing it’s raining and decide then and there, it’s going to be a bad day.

Something that they have no control over will decide for them.

You have no control over what Younguru will say.

Will you continue on without a word or finger?

This is a hard lesson for a youngster since everything is new and has so much meaning.

Surely, one must react to every detail in one’s life.

As time passes however, we look back, and the things that seemed so important, actually

weren’t important at all.

In general, I’d say you’re better off choosing a kind word than reacting

with sharpness and seriousness.

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@Excaliburns said it better than I could have! <3