The beauty of the community forums is that people can share their thoughts, opinions, complaints, suggestions, feedback, and everyone can discuss and dispute freely. But are we always doing it respectfully?
Different people have different opinions, and it’s always ok to disagree and see things differently. But more importantly, we should respect these differences in opinion, especially when we decide to reply.
One way to reply to someone’s opinion that I personally find patronizing and a bit disrespectful, is telling that person “if you don’t like it, go do something else” in any of its forms.
If I come to the forums to say that I dislike bingo play for example, it’s always nice to hear others’ opinions on the subject. But to have someone come and tell me “if you don’t like all ins, don’t play NL, go find a limit game and play it” is such a negative attitude and doesn’t encourage a healthy conversation.
“You don’t like the site rules, go to another site”, “you don’t like offensive chat, mute it and play”, “you don’t like this, go do that”. All these are condescending remarks with no positive effect whatsoever.
Of course in some cases, when you think the person complaining is not aware of a certain option and you suggest it in a positive manner, this could be helpful. For example: “in case you didn’t know, it is possible to mute the chat using the mute button” which could help the person complaining if they didn’t know the option.
But telling people to go play different formats or go to other sites just because they dared to complain about something is, IMHO, unacceptable (unless of course you own the site or the formats, which is almost never the case lol).
I just wanted to give my opinion about this particular way of interaction, and if you don’t like it, go read another thread (lol imagine!)
What about others? Do you agree/disagree? Are there any other conversation aspects you don’t particularly like?
): to answer to a serious thread with only a sarcastic, ironic or «funny» remark, without adding anything, either reasonable or banal, to the topic itself. This is a lack of respect, in my opinion.
), we can be certain she won’t cry the whole night over them, because she knows how to counter if she feels offended, but if inexperienced people overcome their shyness and post something here for the first time, such responses will discourage them for ever, I am sure.
Could very well be the case sometimes. I also think it’s nice to see more people involved in the forums!
